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The convuluted, moldy, crusty and ancient severity of my abandonment issues never ceases to amaze me.

So if anyone else gets a glimpse into how deep-seated, how murky, messy and mired my fear of abandonment is, to the point that it makes them rethink if they have ever truly known any of the people they thought they ever really knew in their life, if, if, if.....

I will tell them that they're telling me something I know already and all too well; that I got there before they did,
that I beat them to it,
and
 that now, I am invincible-- so invincible
that nothing can ever make my fear of abandonment more worse than it already is.

Whoever told us that having fears makes us weak and vulnerable? I'm untouchable. 

You are the Wonder that Keeps the Stars Apart.

Have you lead a strange life if I said that your first kiss was not your first love? If I told you that your first kiss was the first time you felt what it was like to live, because your first love is supposed to do that for you isn't it? But your first love was unfamiliar like your life so far--unfamiliar and awkward and painful, like your first period when the pain and discomfort of simply feeling something for the first time did not let you sleep?
Would it be just as uncomfortable to hear that your first kiss was the most un-first-like you have felt with a first in your life? That the touch of those lips, his teeth clinking accidentally against yours, the wild yet subtle leaps of his tongue inside your mouth, and the nape of his neck was the name you put to familiarity and home? That you finally fell asleep that night, all through the night, because the memory of your first kiss made you think that there is a whole world of serenity, acceptance and safety in someone's pair of arms--- that the scent of someone's breath and the conviction of his teeth biting down on your lip breathes oxygen into your lungs, keeps your heart beating, thumping against your chest even when time seems to have stopped still.
Would your world seem like a fragrant, vast valley of roses, dull, wine-red, romantically, fiercely, passionately, deeply red, red roses when you fall into his arms and breathe in his warm scent? And would your life seem worth living if his kiss, his scent, every sinew in his body promises to you that the word happiness will be meaningful as long as he is in your life, as long as those arms keep opening wide for you to fall back into? Would it be strange to realise in that moment that every time we kiss, it feels like our first, and that he is perhaps the last person I will ever honestly love?

"I carry your heart with me. I carry it in my heart. I am never without it. Anywhere I go, you go, my dear. And whatever is done by only me…is your doing. I fear no fate…for you are my fate, I want no world cause you are my world. Here is the deepest secret no one knows. Here is the root of root and bud of bud & the sky of the sky of the tree of life. Which grows higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide. It’s the wonder that keeps the stars apart.
— E.E. Cummings

Note to the Dead Wallclocks in My Room that Hang In Silence.

I think of you at 3am just as I am reminded of you at 3pm. I think of you in the moments before I sleep, or before I take a bite out of a chocolate that I suppose you would've liked to have, or just after finishing my breakfast, or in the moments I step out of the car. I mean to say, that, there is no specific time in which I think of you or don't think of you. You are a fluid, pure part of my mind, my thoughts, just as milk is a component of the tea-- hot, steaming cups of tea you and I shared in the cold evenings along with your stories of the war. You are a part of my most self-like self, as like myself as I can ever be.
In the natural process of thinking and unthinking of you, I question the 24-hours in a day, question...question... question... If the time we measure through minutes and numbers is a measure for anything meaningful at all, meaningful as the pictures and voices of you in my head. What are these clocks and alarms worth really if they do not measure the capacity to feel, and remember, and love you, collect and preserve our memories like the tangible grains of sand in hourglasses-- what are these clocks, what are these numbers that do not measure pain or joy, or the time it takes for love to blossom, to stagnate and finally to fade away-- what are these clocks and calenders if they only predict time and dates but never told me about the day you will leave, and never told me about the rest of the days of my life after that day, where I would find life itself such a fickle, such an abstract concept--an abstraction that I could do without easily if I can do without you?


“The bereaved have no language with which to speak with the unbereaved.”

They tell me that time heals all but why does time not answer my questions? Can you please come back now and tell me why time does not respond to me? As if time itself was now hostile towards me, as if I had offended it with some foolish mistake... But can you come back and explain to me why and come back to make me aware of my mistakes? Because nobody does that for me anymore. Nobody waits and nobody explains all the whys like you did. I don't make anyone want to be patient enough to explain the whys and hows to me, don't make anyone want to stick around and explain the wrongs to me. Everyone has something to say. Then why can't I hear anything more than indifference in the air that carries the voices to me? Even time itself does not bat an eyelash for me, as if everything had stagnated the moment you left. So won't you please come back now and breathe life into us again?

Last night I dreamt that someone came knocking at my door at 6 am in the morning. I noticed the greying strands of hair across my shoulders. Turning towards the mirror, I saw the sagging eyelids, the wrinkled skin hanging in folds around the corners of my mouth. My breath held itself back for a second. I suddenly remembered that I'm not seventeen but seventy. It was as if my body had more control over me than my own 'self', as if I had learned to recognise myself separate from it.

The girl who knocked at my door asked me how much of my life I remembered even now. The apples of her young cheeks grew red with excitement when I finally uttered your name. I felt my heart swell up with joy at the thought of you too, at the thought that you were the first. It was the thought of you being the first one to put up with all the stubborn, tantrums of the naive, seventeen-year old, the first to share the punch of anger and the touch of warm secrets, the first to hear the raising and lowering of voices, spilling out thoughts off the top of our heads fearlessly, recklessly through sunsets and sunrises along with the endless silences our adolescent pride imposed on us through months. I felt the hair on my knuckles stand at the excitement rushing through me at the thought of you, as if time had stagnated for a couple of seconds, as if you would walk back into my life unabashed like this thought, until a snap of fingers and the young girl's voice pulled me out of my reverie. "Tell me everything you remember!" she shrieked, and in the exact next moment the excitement sank to the bottom of my gut with a loud thud, the loudness of which no one else could discern. I felt the grin on my face crawl back into the folds of the wrinkles, sagging my mouth, as I realised that I carried nothing else with me into my seventieth year, as I realised that the only thing I remembered of myself was you.